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♥ Nov 9th at 10AM / via: ilovecharts / op: ilovecharts / tagged: women. social justice. chart. submission. / reblog / 3,841 notes

The Pensieve for my Soul: Girls Hate Nice Guys →

world-shaker:

soulpensieve:

girls. hate. nice. guys.
let that sit and simmer for a bit
doesn’t make sense does it?

see, gentlemen never get laid
and the guys that open doors
are avoided like open sores

and don’t you dare compliment her
or show that you care
or pretty soon all you’ll be dating is thin air

no, girls love…

Gentlemen, let me clear something up for you:

There is nothing wrong with being a good man. We don’t have nearly enough. The reason some girl spurned you for the “bad boy,” is because he had the confidence to make a move and initiate something. You didn’t.

I know, I know…you respect her too much to try and take things out of “the friend zone.” Yeah. That’s it. It couldn’t be that you never asked. Or you passive-aggressively withhold your feelings because you haven’t done enough to develop the ability to talk about those feelings, or express them in an appropriate and healthy way. Or that you self-punish by repeatedly putting yourself in a situation where you end up desiring a committed girl you can’t have because it’s socially safer to you than pursuing a woman you might actually be able to have a healthy relationship with.

Couldn’t be.

Being confident doesn’t mean you have to stop being nice like you think it does. Jerks don’t have the market cornered on it. What being confident means is you have to put aside the fear that you convince yourself is respect (it’s not “respect;” you’re afraid of rejection and being vulnerable enough to share how you feel with another human being you care about). You think you don’t have to make a move? Or be forward and direct? That maybe if you just sit back and wait that maybe one day she’ll come around instead of you blowing up at her in a passive-aggressive rage and abandoning the friendship after she gripes about the latest bad boy heartache because you didn’t have the nerve to make a move?

Nope. Clearly it’s her fault.

Grow up. Develop the confidence to be direct about your feelings and intentions, and then see if you want to complain about the results.

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There’s actually a study out (I don’t remember what it is, but it was featured on npr in winter) that suggests nice guys are the ones girls marry, ie: the ones women end up in long term relationships. Also, it suggests that getting married makes you into a nicer and more socially extroverted guy. So, when you see women going for the bad guys, maybe they didn’t really want a meaningful relationship anyway.